{"id":1411,"date":"2018-06-08T14:08:57","date_gmt":"2018-06-08T12:08:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/?post_type=article&#038;p=1411"},"modified":"2018-06-13T13:41:00","modified_gmt":"2018-06-13T11:41:00","slug":"irrid-gustizzja-ghal-uliedi-omm-u-nanna-li-garrbet-u-ghadha-ggarrab-it-tbatija-u-l-faqar","status":"publish","type":"article","link":"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/en\/article\/irrid-gustizzja-ghal-uliedi-omm-u-nanna-li-garrbet-u-ghadha-ggarrab-it-tbatija-u-l-faqar\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI want justice for my children\u201d \u2013 a mother and grandmother who suffered and is still suffering from poverty"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1412\" src=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/IMG_8700-min.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"6000\" height=\"3506\" srcset=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/IMG_8700-min.jpg 6000w, http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/IMG_8700-min-300x175.jpg 300w, http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/IMG_8700-min-768x449.jpg 768w, http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/IMG_8700-min-1024x598.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 6000px) 100vw, 6000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">\u201cI<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> want justice for my children \u2026\u201d. This is what Jennifer Borg*, a 40-year old single mother of three and grandmother of three, who grew up in poverty and is now still living a hard life following separation from her ex-husband.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer became a mother at 17. She got married at 18 and had three children:<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> two girls, now aged 22 and 20 and a boy of 12. One of the girls is living with her partner, the other is living with her and the boy is living with his father.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">She is also a grandmother to three children. She has been in and out of court for the last five years. \u201c<\/span><span class=\"s3\">They say that the perpetrator of domestic violence should leave the home but I ended up leaving the home and I am the victim\u201d, Jennifer said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Since January 2018 she has been living on her own in a small garage in <\/span><span class=\"s3\">Marsascala<\/span><span class=\"s3\">.<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> She used to live in another place in another locality, but the house was old and when she asked the owner to carry out maintenance works on the walls as the humidity was affecting her daughter\u2019s health the owner ordered her to evacuate the place as there were others who were ready to rent it. She could not afford to rent elsewhere at <\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u20ac700<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> a month as she had court expenses to pay. Jennifer told Voice of the Workers that she has hardly anything to eat. \u201cIf you open the cupboard all you will find is noodles,\u201d Jennifer said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">She decided to rent a garage for <\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u20ac300<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> a month as she found nothing<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> cheaper.<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> \u201cMy daughter should be with me but at the moment she is living with my mother\u201d, Jennifer explained.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Asked whether she has some form of help, Jennifer said that the Housing Authority has known about her case for five years and they keep telling her to wait <\/span><span class=\"s3\">until she is allocated a place to live. At one time the Authority <\/span><span class=\"s3\">dropped<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> her application but<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, thankfully, she found a good soul at the Authority who reopened the file.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Her problem is that her matrimonial home belongs to the Housing Authority and the contract was drawn up in her name as well as her ex-husband\u2019s name. <\/span><span class=\"s3\">Because their assets have not been divided, she is stuck. She said if she were to cede the home to her ex-husband, it would seem to <\/span><span class=\"s3\">Government that she had a place and she refused it. \u00a0Only a court sentence can solve the problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">In the meantime<\/span><span class=\"s3\">,<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> Jennifer has managed to obtain a<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> marriage <\/span><span class=\"s3\">annulment<\/span><span class=\"s3\">. <\/span><span class=\"s3\">However<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> there are still a number of obstacles pending regarding care and custody of her son. According to Jennifer, her children are afraid of her ex-husband.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"width: 1832px;\" class=\"wp-video\"><!--[if lt IE 9]><script>document.createElement('video');<\/script><![endif]-->\n<video class=\"wp-video-shortcode\" id=\"video-1411-1\" width=\"1832\" height=\"1080\" preload=\"metadata\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"video\/mp4\" src=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/1.mp4?_=1\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/1.mp4\">http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/1.mp4<\/a><\/video><\/div>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Her ex-husband has never worked and has been registering for work for the last 30 years. He would occasionally carry out an undeclared job <\/span><span class=\"s3\">or two <\/span><span class=\"s3\">and as soon as he g<\/span><span class=\"s3\">ot<\/span> <span class=\"s3\">\u20ac2,500<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> together he would decide not to work for a year or two. As soon as the boy was born, however, things seemed to <\/span><span class=\"s3\">settle down. <\/span><span class=\"s3\">Unfortunately, this new-found equilibrium was not to last.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer works as a driver with a transport company.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/KZB9PnKdP2Y\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>She had high praise for the management of the company.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/het0tnK2B2Y\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer added that on top of all this, she suffers from <\/span><span class=\"s3\">fibromyalgia<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, a condition that causes pain throughout the whole body. She said that the doctors only diagnosed this condition after 18 years.<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"width: 1920px;\" class=\"wp-video\"><video class=\"wp-video-shortcode\" id=\"video-1411-2\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" preload=\"metadata\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"video\/mp4\" src=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/5.m4v?_=2\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/5.m4v\">http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/5.m4v<\/a><\/video><\/div>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer spoke about her children and said that, in five years<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> she has hardly seen her son \u2026 she does not know what has become of him. Her ex-husband tried to deny her knowledge of her son\u2019s health, his education and to stopped her from applying for a passport for him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Voice of the Workers <\/span><span class=\"s3\">asked about the contact she has with her children today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-ccp-props=\"{\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/WaBzYfsVSKk\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Jennifer said that her troubles started when she was just eight years old.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RKPxbdMUIsI\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">She was 35 years old when she reported the sexual abuse she had suffered <\/span><span class=\"s3\">at the hands of her uncle-by-marriage <\/span><span class=\"s3\">as a child<\/span><span class=\"s3\">. On his deathbed, her uncle allegedly asked for her and told her that \u201che would not rest until he destroyed her\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">She now<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> understands that what happened was not her fault.<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"width: 1804px;\" class=\"wp-video\"><video class=\"wp-video-shortcode\" id=\"video-1411-3\" width=\"1804\" height=\"1080\" preload=\"metadata\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"video\/mp4\" src=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/9.m4v?_=3\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/9.m4v\">http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/9.m4v<\/a><\/video><\/div>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">She said that when her eldest daughter used to go out<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> clubbing, she used to suffer from panic attacks and breathlessness and she used to drop anything she tried to hold. Every time her daughter was late<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, she would get hit by her husband. However, when they finally ended up in court, because she was so scared of her father, her daughter allegedly said that it was natural for parents to discipline their children! At the time Jennifer was in such pain because of her fibromyalgia that she could not walk. She was told that her pain was a symptom of her depression but this was not the case.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9r7p7UxE3To\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">She carried on to say that she never <\/span><span class=\"s3\">had<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> any support from her ex-husband\u2019s family.<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> This does not mean that her own family was free from evil and meanness, but she feels that if she had not been helped by some members of her family her children would not have come of age. If it had not been for her own efforts, her children would not have been able to attend Church schools. \u201cIt <\/span><span class=\"s3\">was never without a fight but they went\u201d, she said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Unfortunately, her ex-husband could not have cared less about his children\u2019s education.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/xx9vqBgcEnE\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer said that she <\/span><span class=\"s3\">did all she could for her family and she managed to keep the family together for 16 years. This is in spite of problems that started surfacing within five months of marriage. She even found herself facing the barrel of a gun at one point. And it was not the first time that her ex-husband enjoyed the company of other women.<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"width: 1920px;\" class=\"wp-video\"><video class=\"wp-video-shortcode\" id=\"video-1411-4\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" preload=\"metadata\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"video\/mp4\" src=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/12.m4v?_=4\" \/><a href=\"http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/12.m4v\">http:\/\/weekly.uhm.org.mt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/12.m4v<\/a><\/video><\/div>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Voice of the Workers<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> asked Jennifer how she feels after all those years of abuse, violence and negligence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/AFdXMlQv_pA\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer discredits the reports on <\/span><span class=\"s3\">poverty that are published and given coverage on the media. She says only those who experience poverty know what it is and claims that domestic violence is linked with poverty.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/W9c-UhcPB_Y\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer says that if it had not been for <\/span><span class=\"s5\">Dar Mer\u0127ba Bik<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> she would not be where she is today. The <\/span><span class=\"s3\">management of <\/span><span class=\"s5\">Dar Mer\u0127ba Bik<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> had faith in her and her potential to work and become financially independent. She made a great deal of effort to find work and to get her driver\u2019s licence. Although her father had told her that she was good for nothing, she achieved a great deal. <\/span><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer thanks <\/span><span class=\"s5\">Dar Mer\u0127ba Bik<\/span> <span class=\"s3\">and t<\/span><span class=\"s3\">he staff <\/span><span class=\"s3\">for helping her<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, even offering her free psychological services.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">The same cannot be said for the Government authorities because she has, as yet, not found any help.<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> Jennifer also levelled a great deal of criticism at the court because she was not even allowed access to her son\u2019s school to, at least, find out how he is getting on at school.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">All in all, Jennifer is asking for justice to be done and <\/span><span class=\"s3\">that it is no longer alleged that she is mentally unstable. Although she is being denied the love and comfort of her children and grandchildren, Jennifer is at least grateful that the latter are being brought up by their parents.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">Also, <\/span><span class=\"s3\">de<\/span><span class=\"s3\">spite the <\/span><span class=\"s3\">suffering she <\/span><span class=\"s3\">experienced<\/span><span class=\"s3\"> at the hands of her ex-husband<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, despite the fact that he denied her contact with her children and despite the fact that she has no feelings for him, <\/span><span class=\"s3\">Jennifer still wishes that he be given the help he needs because he also suffered when he was a child.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GpRsC3iAYY8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\"><span class=\"s3\">*Names have been changed to protect the person\u2019s identity and that of her relatives.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"s4\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; \u201cI want justice for my children \u2026\u201d. 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